Advice: Losing a Friend Because of Someone Else
Re: I’m losing a best friend all because of this girl we both met a few months ago. Nowadays it’s never just him and I, one of us is always tagging along. I’m pretty sure if I said something nothing will change except for her knowing she’s become a bother or him thinking I’m shallow for not thinking of her feelings. Dear Reader, All friendships have their up and downs - especially if you’ve been friends with the person for a long enough time to note a drastic change in character or self-esteem. Many might suggest confrontation - but before you go all out and vent about this person - take into consideration a myriad of things. One of your worries was that of hurting your friend’s feelings, this is understandable. However, if you’re close friends, I’m sure your friend won’t mind hearing you out on this particular problem. Well, it isn’t necessarily a problem - perhaps it’s a mild annoyance with said person. Your friend will understand and will also hopefully try to make amends. However, different people are bound to disrupt even the strongest of bonds - you must not let this bother you. It is ultimately your decision. Remember, change creeps into our lives in unnoticeable drops. We can adjust. And we can walk away from it. Whatever we decide to do won’t necessarily label us as A or B - it won’t define you either. It will stand to reflect upon your judgement. Which, is totally up to you and according to your perspective. More so, if you think this particular person has a negative influence on your friend - share your views according, make sure to be sensible and speak from an objective point of views. Keep his best interests at heart. Sincerely yours, The Advice Team
